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Could A Strength Mantra Improve Your Day?

By Dr. Ryan Niemiec

A big part of advertising is creating a slogan that people will remember, and hopefully, encourage some type of action. What if you took this "advertising" approach to your character strengths? Could you create some personal slogans or mantras that would help utilize your strengths, connect you with those around you, and make you feel happier and more at peace? I think so! Here are three examples to get you started focusing on the strengths of gratitude, forgiveness and curiosity.


When the wildly popular poet Mary Oliver was asked "What is spirituality?" she had this to say (paraphrasing): It's when we go about our day and to each person we meet and to each thing we encounter, we say, "Thank you, thank you."

What would happen if you used your strength of gratitude in this way? Could you say that (and mean it) to your colleague who is disagreeing with you? To your child who is screaming his head off? To your neighbor who is complaining to you about your lawn? Could you say a heartfelt "thank you" to the trees you pass by as you walk, the squirrel galloping by, and the piece of trash floating in the wind?

Bonus resource: a checklist of "five thank yous"


Forgiveness, at its core, is about letting go. It's the opposite of clinging, holding closely to your grudges or harboring anger from misgivings of the past. Let's turn to the wisdom of a child named Ian, who was interviewed about how he handles problems in school. He shares how he turns to his forgiveness strength at difficult times and uses the phrase, "It's OK, it's OK," when someone wrongs him.

Bonus resource: 30-second video of Ian on forgiveness in his own words.


At its core, your character strength of curiosity is about exploration. To be curious about something is to intend to gather more information, to build new ideas, to gravitate to a new experience. Our attention becomes captivated in the moment, and we open ourselves to learning and experiencing the newness. Our mind is fresh and ready, and we feel refreshed.

You can prompt yourself to your curious mind with a response of "That's interesting, that's interesting." Mental health professionals say this all the time to clients to show interest and to encourage the client to share more. We use this phrase in our conversation with a friend out getting a drink, in our friendly debates with someone who offers a different point of view, and when someone shares something surprising or insightful with us. "Hmmm, that's interesting," we say.

What would it be like to go about your day with this phrase in mind? Might you say it to yourself when you are struggling with a work project? When you feel stressed out in your relationship? When you are sitting in traffic? What positive action might this curiosity prompt?

Bonus resource: reasons and ways to be curious, two-minute video with scientist Todd Kashdan

Taking Action

These three character strengths - gratitude, forgiveness, and curiosity - have hundreds of scientific studies supporting their existence, uses, and benefits. Pick one strength. If you were to focus on one of these strengths - using a phrase above - two things would be very likely:

  1. You'd feel a boost to your personal well-being.
  2. You'd be making others feel better, more empowered, or more connected to you.

So, what do you have to lose? Pick one of these strengths, use the phrase as much as you can (verbally or nonverbally) as you go about your day interacting with others and connecting with the larger world . . . and reap the benefits!

It can be as easy as this:

  • Thank you, thank you.
  • It's OK, it's OK.
  • That's interesting, that's interesting.

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